Why Do Some Escorts Not List/Have Phone Numbers?

Well, I can't speak for others...but i can shed some light as to why i do not operate with a phone number/phone app/texting (ugh) or direct line of contact.

Call me "Old-School" but i am realizing that "Old School" style of high end escorting of the past had many redeeming qualities in both the safety for the gentleman, safety for the provider and well-being and peace for the lady. (i.e.: less frustration)

When i first started there was a great risk in listing a phone number in the way of LE targeting.
*Easiest and less time consuming for them to simply run down a phone list...rather than taking the extra care and time in filling out screening forms/proper introductions through email etc (as that allowed a companion to avoid incriminating questions and avoid being in direct line with those meaning to entrap her)

As time went on, it also allowed a buffer between "real life" (career, family, friends and personal time) and the "secret life".  I do not have to deal with:

* "u avail?" texts at all hours of the night/day.
* Undesirables/stalker types simply changing their phone numbers to "speak direct" to me and gather location information.
* Puts an extra layer between myself and those meaning harm or entrapment
* Allows me to screen PRIOR to engaging in any information exchange with a stranger which is critical.
* Allows me to work my vanilla career uninterrupted and engage in life and segment when i want to engage in my "fun secret job"
* Is a deterrent towards the undesirables (pimp-y types, emotional types, "any port in a storm" mongers)
* EMAIL is MORE secure away from a client's SO as many gents do not have their phones "locked down" and that's often the 1st place a suspecting SO will look. I have NEVER had communication from a jealous SO due to an email only protocol. It HELPS YOU- the potential client also.

MISCOMMUNICATION Risk:
  You are a sweet guy, leave a nice message outlining all- and even outline "call me back" but is nervous and doesn't mention WHEN (or I'm  at vanilla job when you are free to speak) ..then it is a risk to you for me to call/text just whenever...or it leaves me guessing- and then you think i am "flaky" or "unresponsive" ....see? there's Way too many Variables to mess up on...

* Peace of MIND. Making this more enjoyable to me.   One of the biggest complaints i hear from companions is the frustration of lack of gentlemanly communication through text, the threats, the inappropriate questions.... by using email (and i still do get occasional "u avail?" but SO MUCH LESS....
   It adds to the pleasure of what i do by eliminating the knuckleheads (plus much of the risk factors mentioned above) without frustration on my end.

It makes me a happier escort, it has allowed for my longevity in this and avoid "becoming jaded" and kept both myself and my gentleman friends secure in regards to discretion.

I've experimented a couple of times with many different methods  as I have a voice of sugar and am quite articulate and sometimes hope for someone to hear me, have a great comfort with my voice and move forward in the booking process due to that- but both ended in more than 200 texts plus hangups with the "u avail?" and dick pic crowd or leaving an incomplete anonymous message and ZERO bookings and inability to call back as i was at my vanilla career. = NO GO for me.

WHAT? NOT Comfortable booking with a companion without speaking to her? 

I never said that. I SPEAK via phone to ALL suitors prior to the arranged date.
But..it's after my discreet screening and a date set up - so that i know you are serious , sincere and sweet...   I assure you- my voice at that point is often an enticement to our next step forward of spending time in person....

*Fondly and with Anticipation....*

Mel

www.escortingmelinda.com

Booking The Easy Way

Sometimes the process of setting up a date is SO easy, simple, streamlined.......and sometimes it's not.

With so much fear-mongering, paranoia and wrong information being propagated and spread on the escort boards in the guise of "advice to newbies", I figure that I'll simply try enlighten the serious and sincere with a bit of info to make it easy.

Granted, every woman, every provider is going to have a bit of a different way of doing this- but this is my opinion and what works for me.

#1. Be a Gentleman.  Granted this is not The Dating Game (cue: 1970's music and polyester shirts), but a little bit of courtesy by introducing yourself goes a long way (as in wet panties, open doors and a woman excited to see you-which I am assuming is the goal, eh?). More than 2-4 sentences and no need to write a whole page (that can be a bit creepy also) but a simple paragraph.  Just because there is Tinder out there, doesn't mean we all have to stoop to that impersonal level. I love the anticipation of meeting a new gentleman friend also!

No's
"u avail?"

"what is your schedule?" (nothing else added)

"Hi. I'm "BigJoeHobbyist" (insert board name here) I'd like your first avail appt. u avail?" (still missing the mark)

"What's your rates? (frustrating if my webpage was attached to my ad) I (insert long sob story here)...don't get sex at home and I am seeking (insert sexual acronym here or imply). Can we (insert more sexual innuendoes here)?"

"i can't afford you but can you do ____ for ____?" (negotiating is crappy)


YES!

"Hi! I'm _______________ (insert name). I'm a 53 year old dentist from Chicago visiting Denver on __________. I saw your ad on TER and would like to inquire about meeting during the time that i am there. My first choice would be for 2 hours on friday night with a preferred time of 8pm start (although flexible)- I could also meet earlier in the day at 2pm if that does not work for you. I am staying at the Sheraton Downtown on ________ Street.  My number is ______________. Please only call before 5pm EST and email first."

"Providers that I have seen recently that could vouch for me are. 1. (provider name) (provider's webpage) she will remember me as the dentist at the conference- we met at the Hyatt in Vegas 2 months ago. 2. Also (insert similar info on provider 2). I noticed that we have similar loves of cycling, hockey and fine dining! Look forward to meeting you! "

THAT"S IT! THAT SIMPLE!! (provider wets panties- happily responds. She pretty much has all the info she needs to juggle her calendar to accommodate...and start her due diligence-they meet. there are fireworks...messy sheets. ALL GOOD)

NEWBIES or Outdated References?

That's fine. Say it UP FRONT and be forthcoming with your information. Understand that every troll who may have burned his bridges with other companions often become a "newbie"...as does those meaning to harm or attempting to entrap (legal stuff) - hence the companion may initially be guarded until she vets you. And some may not opt to see you at all.



 EASY PEAZEY TIPS!

1. Send both your intro and screening/appt detail info in the FIRST email. (almost NO back and forth needed there) I simply respond. We arrange a time to speak via phone for comfort level and Voila!

2. Don't "PM" through either a message board or even the P411 "PMs". They are not easy to retrieve via mobile devices/not as private as one would wish/on record as communication ON that board if anything goes south and truly just a pain in the ass. If it's P411- send Appt Request (and mark flexibility/intro in the remarks section). EASY!

3. Don't send me provider phone numbers or Back Page ads as your reference info. Send website/email. I work a professional career and not in a position to play phone tag nor text in regards to this- not too discreet. if it's not a companion that is legit with webpage/reviewed/internet presence then it's not a reference.

4. if you are going to use a provider as a reference: make sure she is Ok with it. knows who you are (or let me know how she will remember you). I cannot tell you how many times i have approached a lady and she has no clue who one is.

5. Don't assume that if you approached me years or months ago that i saved your information and you can one-line me a "u avail?" or that i'll know precisely who you are. I am not a big fan of keeping personal info on my computer (unless you have specifically asked me to). Remind me by simply re-sending your info.

6. If you keep changing your name, age, email, phone number each time you approach me-You are a Troll. Don't be a Troll. Be a Gentleman.

To Simplify All of the Above. 

Gentleman=Wet Panties.  Kapeesh? 

www.escortingmelinda.com 
@EscortingMelinda on Twitter

"As a young girl, she was often scolded for going barefoot"

I absolutely Adore this! It speaks loudly to me! How about you?


“Sensuality does not wear a watch but she always gets to the essential places on time. She is adventurous and not particularly quiet. She was reprimanded in grade school because she couldn’t sit still all day long. She needs to move. She thinks with her body. Even when she goes to the library to read Emily Dickinson or Emily Bronte, she starts reading out loud and swaying with the words, and before she can figure out what is happening, she is asked to leave. As you might expect, she is a disaster at office jobs.




Sensuality has exquisite skin and she appreciates it in others as well. There are other people whose skin is soft and clear and healthy but something about Sensuality’s skin announces that she is alive. When the sun bursts forth in May, Sensuality likes to take off her shirt and feel the sweet warmth of the sun’s rays brush across her shoulder. This is not intended as a provocative gesture but other people are, as usual, upset. Sensuality does not understand why everyone else is so disturbed by her. As a young girl, she was often scolded for going barefoot.



Sensuality likes to make love at the border where time and space change places. When she is considering a potential lover, she takes him to the ocean and watches. Does he dance with the waves? Does he tell her about the time he slept on the beach when he was seventeen and woke up in the middle of the night to look at the moon? Does he laugh and cry and notice how big the sky is?



It is spring now, and Sensuality is very much in love these days. Her new friend is very sweet. Climbing into bed the first time, he confessed he was a little intimidated about making love with her. Sensuality just laughed and said, ‘But we’ve been making love for days.”

― J. Ruth Gendler, The Book of Qualities