Sometimes the process of setting up a date is SO easy, simple, streamlined.......and sometimes it's not.
With so much fear-mongering, paranoia and wrong information being propagated and spread on the escort boards in the guise of "advice to newbies", I figure that I'll simply try enlighten the serious and sincere with a bit of info to make it easy.
Granted, every woman, every provider is going to have a bit of a different way of doing this- but this is my opinion and what works for me.
#1. Be a Gentleman. Granted this is not The Dating Game (cue: 1970's music and polyester shirts), but a little bit of courtesy by introducing yourself goes a long way (as in wet panties, open doors and a woman excited to see you-which I am assuming is the goal, eh?). More than 2-4 sentences and no need to write a whole page (that can be a bit creepy also) but a simple paragraph. Just because there is Tinder out there, doesn't mean we all have to stoop to that impersonal level. I love the anticipation of meeting a new gentleman friend also!
No's
"u avail?"
"what is your schedule?" (nothing else added)
"Hi. I'm "BigJoeHobbyist" (insert board name here) I'd like your first avail appt. u avail?" (still missing the mark)
"What's your rates? (frustrating if my webpage was attached to my ad) I (insert long sob story here)...don't get sex at home and I am seeking (insert sexual acronym here or imply). Can we (insert more sexual innuendoes here)?"
"i can't afford you but can you do ____ for ____?" (negotiating is crappy)
YES!
"Hi! I'm _______________ (insert name). I'm a 53 year old dentist from Chicago visiting Denver on __________. I saw your ad on TER and would like to inquire about meeting during the time that i am there. My first choice would be for 2 hours on friday night with a preferred time of 8pm start (although flexible)- I could also meet earlier in the day at 2pm if that does not work for you. I am staying at the Sheraton Downtown on ________ Street. My number is ______________. Please only call before 5pm EST and email first."
"Providers that I have seen recently that could vouch for me are. 1. (provider name) (provider's webpage) she will remember me as the dentist at the conference- we met at the Hyatt in Vegas 2 months ago. 2. Also (insert similar info on provider 2). I noticed that we have similar loves of cycling, hockey and fine dining! Look forward to meeting you! "
THAT"S IT! THAT SIMPLE!! (provider wets panties- happily responds. She pretty much has all the info she needs to juggle her calendar to accommodate...and start her due diligence-they meet. there are fireworks...messy sheets. ALL GOOD)
NEWBIES or Outdated References?
That's fine. Say it UP FRONT and be forthcoming with your information. Understand that every troll who may have burned his bridges with other companions often become a "newbie"...as does those meaning to harm or attempting to entrap (legal stuff) - hence the companion may initially be guarded until she vets you. And some may not opt to see you at all.
EASY PEAZEY TIPS!
1. Send both your intro and screening/appt detail info in the FIRST email. (almost NO back and forth needed there) I simply respond. We arrange a time to speak via phone for comfort level and Voila!
2. Don't "PM" through either a message board or even the P411 "PMs". They are not easy to retrieve via mobile devices/not as private as one would wish/on record as communication ON that board if anything goes south and truly just a pain in the ass. If it's P411- send Appt Request (and mark flexibility/intro in the remarks section). EASY!
3. Don't send me provider phone numbers or Back Page ads as your reference info. Send website/email. I work a professional career and not in a position to play phone tag nor text in regards to this- not too discreet. if it's not a companion that is legit with webpage/reviewed/internet presence then it's not a reference.
4. if you are going to use a provider as a reference: make sure she is Ok with it. knows who you are (or let me know how she will remember you). I cannot tell you how many times i have approached a lady and she has no clue who one is.
5. Don't assume that if you approached me years or months ago that i saved your information and you can one-line me a "u avail?" or that i'll know precisely who you are. I am not a big fan of keeping personal info on my computer (unless you have specifically asked me to). Remind me by simply re-sending your info.
6. If you keep changing your name, age, email, phone number each time you approach me-You are a Troll. Don't be a Troll. Be a Gentleman.
To Simplify All of the Above.
Gentleman=Wet Panties. Kapeesh?
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